The Pieces of Me

So, I want to tell you story about one of races in Indonesia that located in Minangkabau, West Sumatera. I want to introduce more about indonesia.

Padang is the capital city from West Sumatera. Its located in West Indonesia (near from Medan and Aceh). They have unique and different cultures and customs from other city in Indonesia. Their cultures and customs system is about MATRILINEALITY.

Matrilineality is a system in which lineage is traced through the mother and maternal ancestors. Matrilineality also is a societal system in which one belongs to one's matriline or mother's lineage, which can involve the inheritance of property and/or titles.

A matriline is a line of descent from a female ancestor to a descendant (of either sex) in which the individuals in all intervening generations are mothers. In a matrilineal descent system an individual is considered to belong to the same descent group as her or his mother. This matrilineal descent pattern is in contrast to the more common modern pattern of patrilineal descent from which a Family name is usually derived

So we can get the conclusion, matrilineality is descendant system traced from mother. The unique one is when couples get married at Padang, a woman have to come to man's house and pick him up. She have to give the engagements packet (it can be money or things).

If the man have high social status, the price/engagements packet must be in high price too. I know maybe its a little bit weird and unusual but that's we called about culture and customs :)

Indonesia is have many beautiful island and 33 provinces, we have many multicultural and diverse races as well.. Matrilineal and padang is just small pieces in Indonesia's tradition.

So how about your country?
Do you know your culture??

Cheers ! :) :)
Ps : thanks to definition matrilineal from wikipedia ♥

Well, I really love reading the books. Books can open my perspectives to new things and broaden my knowledge.. There are My favorite books (especially novels) that inspire me so much :

1. Da Vinci Code by Dan Brown
Genre: Adventure, History, Arts
*Everyone maybe already know about this coolest author who make controversy in his masterpieces. I know to learn more about the symbol, cracking the codes, and also the life of an artist (I love to know about other country history and arts )

2. Burned Alive by Souad
Genre: Humanism, Culture, Woman's Empowerment
*i remember that is based on the true story. Its about a culture in middle east country, woman is not bless and not get respect from man. Woman can be respected if she can give a birth a boy. Souad as main character get humiliated from her family because she is get pregnance before married. Her family burning her into the fire alive. This story is about how unfair the culture in her society and how she can survive and became strong like now?

3. Sitta Karina's Masterpiece
Genre : romance, adventures, cultures
*Its local novels from Indonesia's author. I love her works, the way she told the story. She can give the message in her book that even though we are love shopping the branded things, go abroad but we must live and proud as indonesian. She told me to respect the relationships between human beings and the true love is when a man love you just the way you are :) :)

4. Hafalan Surat Delisa - Tere Liye
Genre : Children, Survival, religion
*the novels is about the survival a little girl called delisa, who her parents is passed away because Tragedy Aceh's tsunami. She already promised to her mom that she will finish the shalat prayers by herself. In the end of story, she can finish her shalat prayers and meet her mom in heavens *cry

5. Surat kecil untuk tuhan - Gita Sesa Wanda Cantika
Genre : Children, Survival.
*it based on true story, gita is a girl, 12 years old who get disease Face Cancer and her face must be half removed but her dad not allow it. She is fight with her diseases until 3 years with cemotherapy and medicines. Even though she is sick, She is still keep going to school, doing the exams and always get the first rank in her class. Iam so proud with her spirit to live, she is insipired her friends to never give up. But in the end, she is passed away :(

Ok, maybe that's the big five of the books that I already read and memorable for me. I know that many people outside in there who keep their best to live, every single time is precious and if you want be success start from now!

Cheers :) :)

ok. i almost finish my journey in AIESEC Surabaya. it will be end in 30th June 2011.
i know i'm still not good enough increasing our communication capacity but i know in such a little time (3 months left) we can make it together!

First of all i wanna say congratulations to these great people who makes me so proud of them!
1. Fandi Prathama (my super Team-mate) already elected as Local Commitee President AIESEC Surabaya 11/12!! yeayy..

2. Almira Dea Rezkitha (My dear President AIESEC Surabaya 10/11) already elected as Member Commitee Vice-President Communication AIESEC Indonesia 11/12!!
* i will miss you sist about your deadline terror in BBM and DM as well. it will be unforgettable. please take care at Jakarta!

3. Widy Dinarti (My beloved Mentors, President AIESEC Surabaya 09/10 and MCVP Communication AIESEC Indonesia 10/11) already elected as Member commitee president AIESEC Thailand 11/12!!
*please contact me anytime you want through BBM and email. i will do my best until such as 3 months left before i left AIESEC Surabaya :(

4. Kirana Wuri (Exchange Manager AIESEC Surabaya 10/11) already elected as Local Commitee Vice-President Communication AIESEC Surabaya 11/12!!

yeah.. i'm so sad combine into happy as well. i will leave my beloved communication department in such as 3 months left. 30th June 2011 will be my last day and in the next 1st July 2011 the throne will come to Ruri as my succesor.. Ruri, iam so proud of you! you will continue my journey for make AIESEC Surabaya top of mind youth organization in surabaya! please promise to me that you can make it come true!

there's still many works that i must deal with :
- re-raise Hardrock as media partner
- raise JTV as media Partner
- website AIESEC Surabaya development
- E-Newsletter
- I'm an AIESECer stories and WIKI Campaign

its time for continue my journey
put the stone for this 3 months
do the best for the legacy

i know i can make it!
bismillahh..

dear my fellow reader, i wanna share about 20 facts about me. ok its just for fun and i hope you know more about me hehe :)

Sometimes i feel demotivate to finish my thesis quickly.
i dedicated this articles to every person who always feel demotivated

Based on : www.leadershipfreak.wordpress.com by Dan Rockwell

Young leaders frequently ask me to explain motivation techniques because they work with unmotivated employees or volunteers. We discuss carrots (rewards) and sticks (punishments) as motivational tools. In addition, we discuss the power of progress and advancement opportunities as motivational techniques. However, I’m taking a different path today. Let’s take a stroll down the dark side of motivation by exploring de-motivators.

Actions without why’s de-motivate. Humans need higher purpose. For example, higher purpose motivates parents to work long hours in order to provide for their children. Without purpose long hours are meaningless. Furthermore, employees who don’t understand the greater significance of their job lose passion.

Distrust de-motivates. I’ve heard people complain they were promised an opportunity that never materialized. Or, consider this complaint “The boss took credit for my work.” Unethical leaders quickly let the steam out of motivated employees.

Moving targets de-motivate. Employees working to achieve performance objectives that unexpectedly shift may feel their motivational fire cooling.

Ambiguous or unattainable goals de-motivate. It’s true that setting goals that are just out of reach can fan an employee’s enthusiasm. But if you set the goal too far out of reach they’ll give up.

Favoritism de-motivates. This ugly problem can emerge in any situation. However, employees who are promoted to positions where they manage teams that include personal friends may experience the negative impact of perceived favoritism.

Under appreciation de-motivates. Employees who don’t feel understood and appreciated for their efforts gradually lose fervor.

One-way communication de-motivates. Receiving messages from on high without participation in the process makes people feel they don’t matter. When we don’t matter our performance doesn’t matter either.

It’s too easy to de-motivate people. One powerful motivation technique is eliminating de-motivators.

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What de-motivators can you add to this list? Have you experienced de-motivation?

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Leadership Freak

Dan Rockwell